This weekend my husband and I were the guest speakers for a Marriage & Family Retreat at a wonderful church in Casper, WY. We stayed with our good friends Dave & Beth (pictured above), whose lovely home is built beside a winding river overlooking sagebrush-covered bluffs. Our relationship with this couple is very comfortable and feels just like family. The same is true of many of the people at Restoration Church — so our time there is always filled with heartwarming moments and lots of fun times.
We began the retreat on Friday evening and ended Saturday afternoon. At one point we did a divided session in which Don talked to the guys and I talked to the wives. He spoke about “Roles and Goals”, and my topic was “Practical Ways to Show Your Husband Honor and Respect”. This subject almost always leads to some very interesting discussion.
One of my points came through telling them of the time when my son Dan and his wife Felicity, were helping their little girl Claire learn to express herself verbally. Rather than tell them she was upset, Claire would react emotionally. When this occurred they would say to her, “Claire, use your words.” This helped her to stop her emotional outburst, think for a moment and then use her words to explain what was upsetting her.
Throughout the rest of the discussion I would tell the ladies, “Use your words” to tell your husbands how much you appreciate the things they do — whether big or small. Perhaps they helped out with the children, or worked on the engine of the car. Maybe they ran errands for you or picked up the house while you were out. Often we appreciate or honor them in our thoughts, but don’t bother to tell them how we feel toward them.” Another suggestion I had was to use their words to thank their husbands for their areas of strength. I am weak with calculating numbers; so If I did our budget it would be disastrous! However, Don is amazing with numbers and I try to tell him frequently how much I appreciate how he handles our finances.
At the end of our time, I had them make a list of the qualities and attributes which had attracted them to their spouse, and specific things their husbands had done which caused them to respect them. After compiling these lists I asked them to use their words by writing a love letter to him. My favorite part was watching them as they sincerely wrote their love letters to their husbands!
So here’s my question to you. What are some ways you show honor and respect to your husband? Next time we speak for a marriage retreat I want to be able to offer some other ideas and examples besides the ones I use. So please help me out and share with me things you’ve said or done to show your hubby you respect and honor him. I will sincerely appreciate any ideas you have to offer!