Over lunch today my friend and I had a discussion concerning our value. My friends’ issue dealt with her children growing up, leaving home and not needing her as much as before. I’ve had similar conversations with others recently, and it has aroused questions in me about our worth and value.
Does our value come from doing or from being, or from both? As we talked today I reassured my friend her value was still intact and although her role in her children’s lives was changing, she still had great worth. Unfortunately, I’m not sure my words soothed her aching heart, nor did they bring peace to her questions regarding her value.
Driving home I was reminded of the place in scripture where Jesus talks about not being anxious because God takes care of even the birds of the air and the lilies of the field. Once home, I looked up the passage: “Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?” He states the birds aren’t “doing” anything, yet they’re cared for by our heavenly Father. Then He confronts the heart of the matter . . . our value. “Are you not of more value than they?”
I find it interesting that Jesus asks them a question rather than simply telling them they have value. Aren’t you more important than the birds of the air, he asks? Don’t you think there were some people there who didn’t feel like they mattered? Some whose circumstances in life were dictating to them they were without value. Perhaps there was a mother in the crowd whose children no longer needed her. I think He said those words specifically for them! The ones who didn’t feel they had value or worth.
I believe the conversations I’ve been encountering are directing me to a truth He’s wanting to work in my own heart as well. My value isn’t based on what I do or don’t do. My Heavenly Father values me! Our heavenly Father values us! I believe He’s asking the same question today . . . “Are you not of more value than . . .?